Here’s the latest Reverb10 prompt I’m willing to do:
Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out?
Half my problem is that I take these things too literally. I spend so much time thinking of things and then saying “Is that really the WISEST? Or is it just kinda wise? Was there something wiser? What do you know about wisdom, anyway?”
But earlier in the year, I did something extremely tough for me that was also kinda wise. Let me frame it up for those of you who have forgotten.
In December 2009, I got laid off, along with thousands of other people from the company where I worked. I searched and searched and searched for another job and got a few interviews. I finally had an offer for a job that I really wanted, a job that seemed perfect for me, a job that would pay somewhat more than my old job.
The HR lady made me an offer. She and I really had not hit it off. If it was up to her, I am sure that there would have been no job offer, but it wasn’t up to her, thank goodness.
What did I do?
I asked for more money. Not a HUGE amount more, but about 10% more than they offered. I am not a good negotiator. I am more of a “Oh, thank you for whatever pittance you want to pay an incompetent like me!” I stepped up this time because I felt like I had to, that it was time, that I was worth it.
The HR lady was like my worst nightmare come true.
“Why, don’t you think YOU’RE special,” she snapped.
“You know what? I do,” I said, quietly and evenly, willing myself not to run from the room crying.
She told me she had to check with my boss-to-be.
I got the money. All of it. It isn’t enough to make a large difference in my lifestyle, what with taxes and all, but it did make a huge difference in my self-esteem. That was like getting a million dollars, and I gained a bit of wisdom: Ask. All they can do is say yes or no.
(Not really related). And then I made tutus. Photo by Average Jane.