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Sometimes Progress is Nobody Even Caring

April 28, 2013

I was with a group of women yesterday. We ranged in age between 35 and 55, about. Some married, a couple single, some divorced. We were standing around eating snacks and drinking wine or lemonade (yeah, of course as soon as I get done drinking, I get invited to a party in a wine shop OF COURSE).

Some of the women work together and one was telling a story about a guy who didn’t like her because she’s a single mom. Long story, details not important.

One of the other women said “I wonder what he think of me if he knew I were a lesbian?”

Everyone laughed and kept talking.

Later, I thought how she couldn’t have said that without a major shocked reaction 50 years ago. Even 25 years ago. 10 years ago, that sentence probably would have led to some discussion of whether people were ok with that or whether she should have said that or how we were all really ok with that and how we support her “choices.”

Yesterday, it was just part of the flow of conversation. Yay for progress, when once unthinkable things become normal and people can just live their lives.

  1. Viviane permalink
    April 28, 2013 21:45

    Here in France, the law on marriage “for all”, that is for “same sex persons”, has just been voted last week, and I wish things became normal and people could just live their lives, because we are not there yet…

    • April 29, 2013 07:01

      I always thought France was more accepting than we are here in the U.S., but my opinion was shaped by the fact that my gay cousin, Jim, moved there in the 1960s so he could have a happier life. I know the recent demonstrations have been large and noisy, though.

  2. April 30, 2013 13:41

    My son and daughter are teenagers. My daughter has been hit on by lesbian classmates. My son has had the same experience with gay men. The amazing thing is how non-plussed they are by the same-sex attention. It is no big deal to them, no big drama. That tells me how far we have come with acceptance, if not legal rights.

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